100 Would You Rather Questions for Couples (Funny, Deep and Flirty)

“Would you rather” is the easiest couples game there is. No equipment, no preparation, and you find out things about each other you would never think to ask. It works on a first date and on a twentieth anniversary.

One rule: you have to pick, and you have to say why. The why is where the conversation is.

Funny

1. Would you rather always have to sing instead of speak, or dance everywhere you walk?
2. Would you rather have fingers for toes or toes for fingers?
3. Would you rather only whisper or only shout?
4. Would you rather eat the same dinner forever or never eat the same dinner twice?
5. Would you rather have a rewind button or a pause button for your life?
6. Would you rather fight one horse-sized duck or a hundred duck-sized horses?
7. Would you rather always be ten minutes late or twenty minutes early?
8. Would you rather have no eyebrows or only one?
9. Would you rather give up cheese or chocolate?
10. Would you rather be able to talk to animals or speak every human language?
11. Would you rather have hiccups for a year or the feeling of a sneeze that never comes?
12. Would you rather live without music or without films?
13. Would you rather always wear wet socks or have a popcorn kernel stuck in your teeth?
14. Would you rather be famous for something embarrassing or never be known at all?
15. Would you rather know how I'll annoy you tomorrow, or be surprised?
16. Would you rather have a personal chef or a personal driver?
17. Would you rather be stuck in a lift with my mother or yours?
18. Would you rather lose your phone for a week or your keys for a month?
19. Would you rather have a pet dragon the size of a cat or a cat the size of a dragon?
20. Would you rather narrate your life out loud or have a laugh track follow you?

About us

21. Would you rather relive our first date or our best holiday?
22. Would you rather have a quiet night in with me or a big night out with me?
23. Would you rather I cooked for you or took you out?
24. Would you rather get a long letter from me or a whole day planned by me?
25. Would you rather we never argued or always made up brilliantly?
26. Would you rather know everything I'm thinking or have me know everything you're thinking?
27. Would you rather go on a road trip or a beach week with me?
28. Would you rather have more time together or more adventures together?
29. Would you rather I surprised you often or told you everything in advance?
30. Would you rather be told “I love you” every day or shown it every day?
31. Would you rather share one big dessert or have your own?
32. Would you rather spend a rainy Sunday in bed or out exploring?
33. Would you rather I was always honest or always kind?
34. Would you rather we had one shared hobby or separate ones we tell each other about?
35. Would you rather hold hands or have my arm round you?
36. Would you rather hear what I admire about you or what I find attractive about you?
37. Would you rather renew our vows somewhere grand or in the kitchen?
38. Would you rather have breakfast together every day or dinner together every day?
39. Would you rather be with someone who makes you laugh or someone who makes you think?
40. Would you rather grow old in a city flat or a house in the country with me?

Deep

41. Would you rather know how long you will live or how you will die?
42. Would you rather be very rich and unknown or comfortable and admired?
43. Would you rather change one thing about your past or know one thing about your future?
44. Would you rather have a job you love with low pay or a job you tolerate with high pay?
45. Would you rather be respected or liked?
46. Would you rather forgive everything or forget everything?
47. Would you rather have more time or more money?
48. Would you rather be able to say anything without fear or hear anything without hurt?
49. Would you rather lose all your old memories or never make new ones?
50. Would you rather be brilliant at one thing or good at many?
51. Would you rather always know when someone is lying or always get away with lying?
52. Would you rather have one great friend or twenty good ones?
53. Would you rather be remembered for what you did or for how you made people feel?
54. Would you rather live a short, extraordinary life or a long, ordinary one?
55. Would you rather face your biggest fear or relive your most embarrassing moment?
56. Would you rather have your dream home or your dream job?
57. Would you rather give advice or receive it?
58. Would you rather raise children in the city or the countryside?
59. Would you rather be the one who loves more or the one who is loved more?
60. Would you rather have one more day with someone you've lost or one day in the future with someone you'll meet?

Flirty

61. Would you rather have a long kiss or a long hug right now?
62. Would you rather get a flirty text at work or a note in your bag?
63. Would you rather slow dance in the kitchen or stay in bed all morning?
64. Would you rather I whispered something sweet or something cheeky?
65. Would you rather have a massage from me or give me one?
66. Would you rather a surprise date or a surprise weekend away?
67. Would you rather be kissed on the forehead or the neck?
68. Would you rather share a bath or a blanket on the sofa?
69. Would you rather be teased or complimented?
70. Would you rather dress up for me or have me dress up for you?
71. Would you rather have breakfast in bed or a candlelit dinner?
72. Would you rather hear what I first noticed about you or what I noticed today?
73. Would you rather a weekend with no phones or a weekend with no plans?
74. Would you rather fall asleep in my arms or wake up in them?
75. Would you rather relive our first kiss or our best one?
76. Would you rather I planned date night or you did?
77. Would you rather a love letter or a playlist made for you?
78. Would you rather cuddle through a film or talk until two in the morning?
79. Would you rather be chased or do the chasing?
80. Would you rather stay up late with me or wake up early with me?

Life and future

81. Would you rather travel for a year or buy a home sooner?
82. Would you rather have a big wedding or a small one and a long honeymoon?
83. Would you rather live near my family, your family, or neither?
84. Would you rather have a dog or a cat?
85. Would you rather retire early with less or later with more?
86. Would you rather live abroad for five years or stay close to home?
87. Would you rather cook every night or wash up every night?
88. Would you rather have a tidy house or a relaxed one?
89. Would you rather spend on experiences or on things?
90. Would you rather host every Christmas or travel every Christmas?
91. Would you rather have a garden or a view?
92. Would you rather work from home together or have separate offices?
93. Would you rather take one long holiday a year or several short ones?
94. Would you rather plan everything or see what happens?
95. Would you rather learn a language together or an instrument together?
96. Would you rather have a big family or a small one?
97. Would you rather save for a rainy day or enjoy it now?
98. Would you rather be the one who drives or the one who navigates?
99. Would you rather have a wild decade and a calm one, or steady all the way?
100. Would you rather know exactly where we'll be in ten years, or be surprised?

Three ways to play

• Guess first. Before your partner answers, say what you think they will pick. Keep score.
• By text. One question a day, sent in the middle of the afternoon.
• On a drive. Passenger asks, driver answers, swap at the services.

More games: 18 texting games for couples and the couples question game.

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Frequently asked questions

What are good would you rather questions for couples?

Ones where both options are appealing and the choice reveals a preference, such as “told I love you every day, or shown it every day?”

How do you play would you rather with your partner?

Take turns asking. Each person must choose and explain why. Guessing your partner's answer first makes it more fun.

Is would you rather good for a first date?

Yes. Stick to the funny and light questions, and save the deep ones for later.